Let be clear here. Whatever is done after your death is not about you. It is solely for those that remain after your death. What might they need? How will they manage this time? You certainly get to make the decision about what you want to happen, but will the decision be based upon what they will need the most, or upon your desire to avoid being a burden?
I know that the statements I refer to above come from a place of love, but sometimes the expectation of future pain skews our decision-making and planning.
What can I do to make this time in the lives of my family and friends as meaningful as possible.
- What will they want or need to do when I die?
- What parts can I take care of now so they won’t have to manage it during a difficult emotional time for them.
- How do I want to be remembered? What is my legacy?
- What can I do now that will demonstrate my love for them after I am gone?